Part of being a good boyfriend involves going out of your way every once in a while to make life special for your girl. We’re not talking about standard relationship expectations here, but rather those acts which go above and beyond the bare minimum — so, sorry, but “picking up after yourself”, “listening to her” or “staying faithful” won’t make the cut, even though they will surely be appreciated in their own right. For more genuinely adorable moments, here are the top 10 ways to melt her heart:
1) Create Something For Her
Whether it’s writing a song, painting a picture, or — to use a real-life example — cross-stitching a T-Rex for your dinosaur-mad girlfriend combined with her favorite quote from Jurassic Park (“clever girl!”), creating something for your girlfriend demonstrates thought, effort and sometimes a sense of humor. Remember, it’s for your partner, not for a gallery or concert hall, so don’t beat yourself up too much about your creative abilities.
2) Be Kind To Someone She Loves
Sometimes the most thoughtful thing you can do for your girlfriend is to help someone close to her, especially if they’re going through a hard time or struggling in some way. Whether it’s visiting her elderly relatives or bringing a casserole to her bereaved friend, helping out someone she cares about will show her how big your heart is — which will surely warm hers.
3) Text Her Something Nice Out Of The Blue
Depending on how long you have been together, texting her randomly to say you love her is a sure fire way to brighten her day. If you aren’t quite in L-word territory yet, try simply telling her that you were thinking about her or send her a genuine, out of the blue compliment.
4) Cook Something Special For Her
If you live together, cooking is perhaps a mundane activity you do every second night or so. But few people can resist the charm of having a special meal cooked for them. Make an effort to prepare her favorite meal or a cuisine that featured in her childhood, or go all out and have a themed meal, including entrees and dessert. She’ll be touched by the extra effort.
5) Stick Up For Her Publicly
Demonstrate loyalty to your girlfriend by defending her against anyone attacking or criticizing her. If her mother is going on about her weight, for example, say “I think she looks beautiful.” Or if her friends are laughing at her clumsiness, tell them it’s your favorite thing about her. You don’t need to be antagonistic or overbearing about it, especially if the mood is light; but letting your girlfriend know you’re on her side is a solid way to keep her on yours, too.
6) Show Her Your Sensitive, Vulnerable Side
Sometimes what women want to see most from their boyfriends is a sensitive, vulnerable side. Showing genuine emotion when you see a cute animal or watch a sad movie will usually be perceived as more endearing than you think. At the very least, aim to have deeper, more genuine conversations with your partner from time to time.
7) Touch Her
This is an easy one, but it’s very effective. Whether it’s in public or not will depend on your tolerance levels for PDA, but touching your girlfriend — holding her hand, stroking her hair or placing a hand on the small of her back — is a low-stakes way to reinforce intimacy and make your girlfriend feel wanted.
8) Pamper Her For An Evening
This one’s particularly good if your girlfriend is going through a stressful patch. When she gets home from work, have the bathtub filled for her. Include candles, bath bombs and lotions if you are feeling extra indulgent. Once she’s had some time to herself, offer to further de-stress her with a sensual massage or even a pedicure (it’s not as hard as it looks!)
9) Buy Her A Thoughtful Gift
Maybe you’re the type of guy who genuinely struggles with showing emotion or revealing your inner layers. Fine, but one thing every man can do is buy his girlfriend a thoughtful gift. Money doesn’t need to be a barrier here: the old cliche “it’s the thought that counts” is surprisingly true, so long as you’ve demonstrated some creativity and effort. Bonus points if it’s “just because” rather than an occasion like her birthday or Christmas.
10) Get Her Flowers
Flowers are a well-known symbol of romance and affection, and there’s something irresistible about receiving a bunch of them in any circumstances; but having them already arranged in a vase by her side of the bed when she gets home is a bonus touch. Go for cheerful, bright varieties like sunflowers or gerbera daisies if you are worried about the cliche of red roses. Whether you pull out all the stops and complete this whole list, or simply select a few, making your girlfriend’s day from time to time is an important way to keep the spark in your relationship alive. Your girlfriend will be enamored with you, she’ll brag to all her friends, and she may even return the favor by doing something you love sometime, too. It’s not particularly difficult or expensive to do small things that will warm your girlfriend’s heart, so what are you waiting for?